A Tribal Goddess, a truly gifted dancer. I’ve been honoured to share the stage with her in the past and she’s a total sweetheart. Ladies and Gentlefolk, Samantha Emanuel…
Up and coming talent: Illan Riviere…
I ADORE the scarf work in this piece by the Esmeralda Enrique Spanish Dance Company…
I need to dust off my poi and get down to some serious technique drilling if I’m ever going to be as good as this guy…
Inspirational Nuggets: The wonderful world of dance, music, alternative arts and sparkly things brought to you by the interwebs….and me.
Go have a look see. You’re welcome to bring snacks if you want.
It will all be magical, it will make you smile, it might even make your day. Enjoy ~
One of the things I love about being a performer is that you never know what opportunities are lurking around the corner. Sometimes, taking advantage of those opportunities pulls you out of your comfort zone. In a good way. Well mostly in a good way… if it was a bad way then would you do it? Maybe some people would… whatever floats your boat
But I digress…
I’ve been invited to dance at The Creepshow, a new showcase for alternative performers in Dublin.
I got the call last night. The show is tomorrow night.
48 hours to get a set together….
Yup, definately outside my comfort zone.
And I LOVE it.
Fri 16 Jul 8pm @ The Turks Head, Temple Bar – if you feel like a night out with a difference. This is NOT your normal Temple Bar hooley. Dress code: Fancy, fantasy, freakshow, fairy… no football shirts allowed.
I met a lady called Rainey yesterday at Ranelagh Market. Her stall is a little piece of my own personal heaven. Steampunk happiness, beautiful jewellery and paintings = bliss!
Ladies and gentlemen, The Josie Baggley Company!
And there’s more. Rainey and Jim are hosting The Ferocious Mingle Market at the Dublin Co-op on June 13th
An eclectic Bazaar of stall candy. Our stall traders will have tons of stuff to tempt you with including Art, Crafts, Antiques, Vintage Clothes, Jewellery, Steampunk, and more!
All this and Fancy Dress! I know I’ll be there – will you?
If you do – don’t say I didn’t warn you.
This is an account of the birth of my son.
Just to be sure – I’ll say it again:
Read this at your own risk.While I hope that people take this account in the right way I am aware that expectations and experiences of Birth can be sensitive and much varied. This particular experience may
a. freak/gross you out,
b. put you off ever having kids,
c. make you cry.
This is our story, this is my blog. I don’t have to give a reason for writing this down. The decision to read it is entirely yours.
Consider yourself warned.
If you are still here, Hi! 😀 Here we go…
Darragh was born on the afternoon of January 1 2010 after a 21 hour labour.
Contractions started at 7pm on New Years Eve. I had already been in hospital twice that week with false starts and a trapped nerve so I wasn’t that worried about getting there, despite the freezing temperatures. The snow had started to fall but it wasn’t grinding Dublin to a halt yet. I settled down, wrapped up in my slanket and using my pregnancy ball to ride the waves that were coming like clockwork. Textbook. I was happy, centred and excited and all set for my (almost) intervention-free birth experience.
We decided to move to the hospital around midnight. I was taken straight to the delivery room, Mark stayed by my side the whole time. Everything was going well. Until it came time for the IV. This was the only intervention I was prepared for and because they had discovered Group B Strep early in the pregnancy and I needed antibiotics. I had time to get used to the idea.
I got used to it. I wasn’t never happy about it but I accepted it.
Now tattoo needles and piercing needles don’t bother me at all. Needles in general never used to bother me until an unfortunate and painful incident a good number of years ago involving a clumsy nurse and a pulled needle put me off injections and blood donation for life.
So, as you can imagine, I was nervous about the IV needle. Fortunately I have a fairly high pain threshold and I was riding the contractions well. All I had to do was maintain my focus while they put the needle in and secured it and I would be fine. Zen baby, just close your eyes and float and it will be over in a flash….
Except it wasn’t. The first attempt to place the needle in the side of my wrist was botched and it hit bone.
I vaguely remember a flurry of activity at my left hand as they extracted the botched needle and started the process again on the back of my hand. I was more focused on trying to pull it together and centre myself again. I was in shock and in labor – it turned into a losing battle. I lost my rhythm.
From that point on my long-dreamt-of intervention-free birth experience turned into a drug-induced nightmare. Fortunately I remember little of it. The pethidine helped with that. It didn’t so much address the pain, I just didn’t care so much about it anymore.
Gas and air rocks. I loved the world and make sure that everyone knew it. I would have been hugging the midwives if I had been able to get off the bed. I got through 2 1/2 canisters of the stuff. Good shit. 🙂
Women in labour have many different experiences with an epidural.
I put that sentence in so that if you have stuck with me through the whole needle thing, thanks, and consider this another ‘heads up’.
I didn’t want the epidural, but by the time the option was given I was exhausted and trashed and barely coherent.
They had broken my waters at 6cm dilation. Up to that point my body had progressed the labour well. ‘I’ was off on a beach somewhere talking politics with a killer whale called Fred.
It was decided that an epidural would be a good idea as it would help with the pain and tiredness.
Yea, right.
I don’t remember much of the epidural procedure. I do remember the feeling of personal invasion that stayed with me for weeks afterwards. I’m usually a tactile person and I love back rubs. But after the epi if anyone even touched my lower back it completely freaked me out. Not pain in the ouch sense of the word more like…. a ‘prickly ick’ feeling that gave me severe heebiejeebies.
And it did NOTHING for the labour pains, in fact it made them worse. That whole thing about not remembering the pain of labour does not apply here. After the epi my labour stopped and I think they gave me something to make it progress again but its all very vague. I know now that Darragh had not engaged and he was in a funny ‘L’ shaped position…
Next thing I remember was pushing and pushing and terrible cramps in my hips from the epidural and starting to think that I couldn’t do it…
And then I heard Marks voice in my ear, through all of the fuzz and pain, telling me that he loved me and that I could do it and I knew that he was right and I loved him too so I held on to his voice for dear life…
Then the Midwife said that the baby was in distress. Thats when the fun really started.
Actually it all went very quick. The Midwife and the Doctor who suddenly appeared seemed to go into superhero mode. They were fantastic. I was in so much pain but I knew I was in good hands.
Bernie, the Midwive ‘IS’ a superhero. I’m convinced.
It was a ventouse delivery, full episiotomy (like I said, fun.) and it was discovered in the final few minutes of my labour and the first few moments of his life that my beautiful baby boy was indeed in serious trouble.
We found out much later that it was a Foetal-maternal haemorrhage. Darragh was born without his full quota of blood. He was grey and gasping for breath with a falling apgar score. Mark was able to hold him for a moment and I got a quick glance of him before they whisked him away.
I’m not gonna write much about the following few hours because it will make me cry lots. I’ll just give you the happy ending:
The superhero Paediatrician made the decision to give Darragh a blood transfusion in the hope that it would turn things around and it DID. Darragh was a different baby after that, pink, healthy, glorious and adored by all the staff on the ICU and special care baby unit. More Superheros.
I finally got to hold him shortly after 7am on Jan 2. He was still wired up to lots of machines but he was over the worst. Everyone was now more focused on me. I had lost lots of blood as well and my blood pressure was yo-yoing from one extreme to another even after I left the hospital on the fourth day. I wasn’t worried. ‘I’ knew that I would be ok.
So thats it. There is not much else to say. Except that I am so lucky and so happy. Darragh is a beautiful, bright, healthy little boy and I will never be able to thank the Community Midwife team, ICU and Special Care Baby Unit team at Holles Street enough for playing their part in that. Nor can I ever fully thank the Paediatrician who hauled ass through the snow from Dun Laoghaire to save our sons life.
Superheros.
Over the last three months I’ve gone through just about every emotion humankind has given a name to. And some more besides. I’m tired, sometimes brain-mooshy, bone-achingly tired but mostly just-above-zombie-level tired. Its surprising what you can do when you’re just-above-zombie-level tired.
What makes it all so worth it is waking up to this little face every morning.
And, at bedtime…
I think this pretty much sums it up…
Nuff said.
I had a check-up with the Doc yesterday. We are both doing well but Bubs is breech. This is fine for now but the doc advised that if baby hasn’t turned in three weeks then I will be booked in for a Caesarean. The word ‘compulsory’ was used.
Bubs and I have time to change position and align ourselves in readiness for a natural birth – there is no need for panic yet.
Nonetheless – I’m feeling a bit prickly.
I’m annoyed. On principal.
WHY is it, at the merest hint of a so-called complication, that professional bodies, experts in their field no less, baulk, run for the hills and wall you in with their butt-protecting fear-based policies?
WHY is it that they resort to hospital and surgery assisted births, using unnecessary and forceful techniques when labour isn’t progressing fast enough for them (sorry about eating into your tee-off time there, Doc) and in doing so create further complications which endanger Mother and Baby… oh but wait! – We can pump you full of drugs! Yea, you don’t need to know – you’ll be fiiiine.
I’m not a vending machine and Bubs is not on a timer.
Yup…. still prickling.